Resource Category: Tu B'av

Jewish tradition speaks about the deep love that can come from the greatest loss. This loss can be anything from the death of a family member to the end of a relationship, and while it is important that we observe and feel that pain, it is also important that we do the work of understanding ourselves and why that loss so deeply hurt us. Now, as we transition from Tisha B’av to Tu B’av, from loss to love, it is crucial that we reflect on the loss we feel inside to really understand what love we are missing in our lives.

Closely following the holiday of Tisha B'Av, we observe Tu B’Av – the day we traditionally celebrate love, marriage and the continuation of life. This pairing of suffering with recovery and resilience is crucial to the survival of the Jewish people, and this cycle can teach us much about how we can cope and persevere in our own lives today. It can also be an opportunity to explore how we can cope and persevere and take care of ourselves when supporting the people we celebrate on Tu B'Av becomes too much for us.
Finding the right team is crucial in mental health treatment! But what does this even mean? It is essential to have support from positive relationships with therapists, psychiatrists, school, work and family members. 
Have you ever considered taking some of the intentionality you use in planning your career or business and applying them to your relationship with your significant other? Try connecting with your partner with these carefully curated questions from business and personal couch, Darrah Brustein.
On Tu B’av, we have a heightened awareness of love, and the day’s connection with Yom Kippur reminds us we need to love ourselves as well — and we are worthy of love. These two middot (or Jewish values) —B’tzelem Elohim and Refuah Shleima — can guide us as we journey toward self-love to live healthier, more fulfilling lives.
Toxic relationships, whether in the past or the present, can lead to struggles with paranoia, narcissism, depression, anxiety, self-esteem issues, fear, trauma and more. Therefore, the ability to discern whether a relationship is healthy or toxic for one’s mental state remains critical. In the paragraphs below, I will outline three key features of a relationship and how to determine if they are healthy or unhealthy.